When you are lost, do you stop and ask directions?

Frank Hutton
asking directions

Or do you just keep driving around? Or maybe turn the map or Sat Nav upside down just in case it might seem clearer?

 

It puzzles me why people are often reluctant (including myself) to ask for help when we need it?

For instance, when driving to a destination stopping and asking someone which way to go has little risk involved because: 

  1. The person may be local and know exactly where to go, or not, but you've lost nothing but a few seconds of time if they don't. If they do, you will gain time and feel relieved
  2. The person may not be local and cheerily commiserate with you on the challenges of being somewhere new, so you'll probably feel less stressed
  3. The person you ask is unlikely to carjack you (at least in the UK, anyway), deliberately misdirect you or abuse you

Interestingly, we are more likely to ask when when walking along. Perhaps this gives us a clue to the real root cause. It's not about whether the person we ask might know the answer or not, it's a simple fear of rejection OR a fear of looking silly/stupid. It's also possible that once inside our cars, we feel invulnerable and don't want to get out, or even expose ourselves by winding the window down, to a place of 'danger'. It's why the Bobby on the Beat was the Direction-giver of choice, and why we'd still steer ourselves towards someone in 'authority'.

It's a powerful cocktail that leads to inaction and further stress and lack of outcome.

I am equally surprised by how few people take me up on the offer of a free initial consultation about helping them - it's a great way to test out whether we might work well together, so it reduces the risk to you. They tend to either buy our services straight away (the norm) or decide to avoid speaking to us altogether.

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